Pain is a complicated thing. Some of us have more than our fair share. Some seem to have, what seems like, an insurmountable serving that seems humanly impossible to bear, and yet they move forward…day by day…living life with a smile on their face. Sometimes we can’t see the pain because there is no outward sign that they are suffering. I want to send out loving thoughts and a warm embrace to those who suffer by just being in their own body. Many of these people have learned to live with their pain, and while it isn’t desirable, I have to think they have learned something precious that many others will never understand.
I got a small cut yesterday. I cut my finger with sissors and it kind of hurt. In that moment it seemed like a flood of memories came back to me of all the times I have been told to “be careful” ”don’t hurt yourself.” I have said these same words countless times to my four children. In that moment I asked myself, “How much living have I ignored out of fear of being hurt? And is the pain really that bad?” How much do we, as a society, fail to achieve/discuss/work through, because we don’t want to experience discomfort. Don’t get me wrong…plenty of people have repeated the mantra of ”No Pain, No Gain.” But that kind of pain is empowered pain. When we push through pain we have control of it. (Not that I’m advocating this approach.) The unexpected and uncontrolled pain is what makes us feel small and powerless. The EMOTIONAL pain seems worse than DEATH. How many of us would rather do ANYTHING than feel heartbreak or the pain of loss?
I don’t have any great advice except perhaps this…Live BOLDLY. Take the risk. I can almost guarantee you will experience pain, loss, being out of control. But with risk comes great reward. The pain is usually not as bad as the fear that preceeds it. Feel deeply because with the pain also comes joy and ecstacy.
Make it a spectacular year!